Thursday, August 25, 2016

Newborn Lessons: Letting Go of the Little Things

This lesson is a tough one. Admittedly, I can be a little uptight and the little things can bother me. Like, why is there ALWAYS stuff on our kitchen table?

Or why is there ALWAYS a cabinet door open somewhere?

There's little, even no, room for this type of mindset when you have a baby. Her newborn clothes have been pulled out of the draw and sitting on top of the dresser for a month now. Every so often it drives me crazy but then I realize there are 100 more important things going on.

You have to let go of the little things.

You need to let go of them in order to enjoy the time with your family. Every phase is fleeting and if you're worried about the little stuff that's out of place or the little annoyances, you'll miss out on enjoying every moment. Talk about fear of missing out, these are times you can only experience once.

If you want to get as much as sleep as possible - you need to let go of the little things. You could keep yourself up all night worrying about if that scratch on her face is OK, or fuming over some silly comment your spouse made. But when sleep is already a delicacy, why make it worse by worrying about the little things?

To stay grounded and not overwhelmed, you have to let go of the little things. The big things are overwhelming - am I raising a happy child? Is she well-balanced? Will she be smart? Is she allergic to something and I don't know it? These questions and the other monumental things you worry about as a parent are more than enough. If you worry about the little things too, it's just too much. So, who cares if that onesie makes her look like a boy? Or the blanket doesn't match what she's wearing?

Clothes are going to get ruined, car seats will need to be cleaned, she'll have a fit in a restaurant and she'll pee on your yoga pants. Oh and there will be terrible nights with little sleep. You just need to accept that these are things you can't change. Some of them are even kind of funny.

Take this Monday for instance. We got home, I walked in after my husband and he took her out of the car seat and yelled "We have a problem." Let's just say, it was everywhere. This is the kind of thing that could have set either of us off in a second. But we laughed our way through clean up. It wasn't worth getting stressed over and we certainly didn't want baby girl to get upset over it.

You can choose to be miserable, let everything get you down and constantly be frustrated if you want. But mistakes are going to happen, messes will be made and you can't really do anything to stop it. So, let go of it. Let go of the little things and you'll breath easier, sleep better and be able to enjoy every minute with your family.

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