Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Put the Baby DOWN!

This isn't a post about not shaking your baby or walking away when you're frustrated, you ladies (and gentleman) are smart enough to know that.

I talk to mom friends all the time who haven't gone to the bathroom, had anything to eat or even drank any water all day long. They're the ones constantly talking about only being able to drink cold coffee and not showering for 5 days.

I have to say it: PUT THE BABY DOWN.

Go pee. Get something to eat. Reheat your coffee.

Easier said than done, I know. And I get trapped in the must hold baby loop some days myself. But it's good for you and it's good for your baby.



Why it's good for baby:

Your baby always comes first, I'm with you on that. So let's talk about why it's important for baby.

-Independence - These are the times when they're able to learn some independence and start to solve problems for themselves. All very positive things.

-Learning - They learn a lot. I watch when Little One plays on her own (as I drink my hot coffee) and I can see her little gears turning.

-Entertaining themselves - Baby will learn to entertain themselves and play on their own. Super valuable skills as they grow up.

-Patience - Little by little I see Little One get more patience. Don't get me wrong, she still wants what she wants when she wants it. But she can usually hold out a few seconds for me to pee first.

-Explore - They'll learn to explore, try new things and new toys. I love that Little One is trying different ways to do things.

Why it's good for you:

Who really wants to be around someone who doesn't shower for 5 days? Let alone someone that does it on regularly basis. In all seriousness, there are some important reasons to put the baby down.

-Refresh - You're in charge of protecting, loving and growing a little one. You need to be at your best whenever possible. 10 minutes of not holding her so you can drink a hot cup of coffee or brush your teeth and wash your face, might be just the refresh you need.

-Get stuff done - If you're overwhelmed by the amount of stuff that's constantly left undone, it can be distracting and stressful. Not two things you really want to be all the time. So fold the laundry, unload/load the dishwasher. You just need to be put baby down to do it.

-Your health - You have to eat and drink. Period. No excuses. You also have to use the bathroom and brush your teeth, you just have to do these things.

-Independence - When you're drinking your hot coffee or folding the laundry, remember that you're your own person too and not just mom. It might be the best job and your favorite part of everyday but it's not the only thing. Take the time to remind yourself of that.

-Let go & relax - You'll see that they're ok without you. You won't be far and you've made sure that they're safe, fed, changed and have everything they need. Baby will be ok.

But how?

Now that you know why it's important, here are some tips to actually do it.

-Create a safe space - We use our pack-n-play with plenty of baby toys.

-Toys - Don't put them down with nothing to do, it won't last long without distractions.

-New things - We try to introduce new things frequently.  This amps up Little One's curiosity and can give us a much needed break.

-Give them space to roam

-Use food. We call raisins "Briasins", a combination of bribe and raisin.

-Use the time wisely. Have a plan before you put baby down and spring into action once they're settled. You might only get 10 minutes but you can get a lot done in that time if you're focused.

-Make sure they're well-fed.

-Work it into your routine. For instance, in the mornings I nurse Little One and then put her right in the pack-n-play. She's used the routine and might even look forward to this playtime.

10 comments:

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  2. Short and sweet "I LOVE THIS" but WHY??? I know it oh so we'll, after five children myself I had to also learn to put the baby down... Funny thing is with my 5th yes after all my self learning and listening to other I did put my 5th down but... when I showered I took him (sleeping) in his rocker into the bathroom so I could see him, I had a 2 year old too who I was so paranoid may hurt the 5th baby lol. The middle child had a five year gap with the one above him so we done really well. I'd cook he would cry I'd continue to cook, I'd do my washing hang it out every last little bit with my 3rd I really did put the baby down it took a few babies but I got there hehe....
    I loved this read xo

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  3. Short and sweet "I LOVE THIS" but WHY??? I know it oh so we'll, after five children myself I had to also learn to put the baby down... Funny thing is with my 5th yes after all my self learning and listening to other I did put my 5th down but... when I showered I took him (sleeping) in his rocker into the bathroom so I could see him, I had a 2 year old too who I was so paranoid may hurt the 5th baby lol. The middle child had a five year gap with the one above him so we done really well. I'd cook he would cry I'd continue to cook, I'd do my washing hang it out every last little bit with my 3rd I really did put the baby down it took a few babies but I got there hehe....
    I loved this read xo

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  4. Definitely needed to do this w my babies to keep my own sanity and to foster their independence too!

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  5. This is a great post! I don't have children yet, but agree that you have to take a minute, find time and take care of yourself as well.

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  6. There is no other choice but to put them down sometimes! Necessary for many reasons.

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  7. This is so true!! It really is ok, especially for a moment of sanity!

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  8. Completely agree! For me the bouncer and a playpen were so helpful with this, got my hands free while knowing he couldn´t go anywhere / fall / roll over

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  9. This is so true! I have gotten a little better about it with my second child, and know I am going to have to be even better about it with my third! It is hard to put the kids down but it is so important!

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  10. This is so true and definitely something I STILL struggle with every day. I see my son playing independently and enjoying it but I still feel guilty if I'm not playing by his side.

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