Saturday, March 4, 2017

Yes, My Daughter Was that Baby - My first MOPS meeting


We live in a small town and with both of us being work at home parents, making sure Little One was comfortable in all sorts of situations became a priority for me this year. Also, we've only lived here for about 2 years so we're still in the process of finding our tribe. So when I found a local MOPS group, I was thrilled.

Friendship. Coffee. Open discussion about things we're all going through. What's not to love?

Honestly, I was also super nervous. The poor mom who runs the Facebook group received approximately 100 million questions from me before the meeting. In those questions, I found out that child care was offered. It sounds like the perfect opportunity for me to meet new moms and Little One to socialize.

The story that unfolds from there is a hilarious tale of mom failures and my daughter being that baby.

When we arrived, I took Little One to the nursery. A very nice lady introduce herself, had me sign her in and gave me a page (the type you'd get at a restaurant). I heard the tears before I even turned the corner but knew I had to keep going.

Out with the moms we spent the first hour doing a little ice breaker and then watching a video on baby/toddler sleep and how to make them better sleepers. This was hilarious to me because Little One is a terrible sleeper. We actually already followed all of the recommendations from the sleep therapist in the video, it didn't change much in our house. We'll come back to this later.

Strangely - no notifications on the pager from the nursery.

We then moved on to a craft. And I have to tell you - I AM NOT CRAFTY.  However, someone suggested a simple design to put on my mug and I was off.

All of sudden, everyone was saying "who's baby is that?" That's when I looked up and saw the nice lady who introduced herself earlier, holding Little One up in front of the whole group.

Turns out Little One had been crying most of the first hour and wanted to be held the whole time. Yup, she was that baby. Totally not used to leaving mom at all.

And even better, my pager wasn't working so I never got any notifications.



The mom guilt was real. Here I was in front of a group of women I had never met and it looked like I had been ignoring my baby. My heart was so heavy and I felt terrible for Little One.

But we stuck around and chatted while everyone finished their mugs.

Funny story about my mug, it was in my diaper bag. The diaper bag that fell off the counter right when we got home. Mug shattered.

To top of this disaster of a mom day, remember how I said we watched a video about promoting good sleep habits? It took Little One two and half hours to go down that night.

The mom guilt just grew and grew all day and night. My temptation is not to go back to MOPS but I know that it's important for both Little One and I to get out of our shells.

Hopefully we'll have our s%*t together better for this next meeting.

25 comments:

  1. Great story! Don't worry this will not be the first nor the last time your kid is the one!!

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  2. Oh I totally know the feeling. My little one started day care last month and I went back to work a month earlier than planned. Total mom guilt over here!

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  3. sorry the above comment was me!

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  4. I have so been there! I often feel like a hot mess and I totally know the feeling of one mom disaster after another. We have all been there, Mama! You are doing a great job and give yourself a big hug for caring so much. XOXO

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  5. The first time I went to meet some friends as a new mom, my son puked all over me! 🙈🙈🙈😂😂😂

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  6. I have totally been there. I'm guessing most of the moms were so busy trying to convince everyone they have their act together that they didn't have time to judge you.

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  7. I think all babies have been that baby at some point or another :)

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    1. I'm sure and I know it won't be her last time.

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  8. I was in a MOPS group and my baby was the one too.

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  9. Aw! In a group of mothers I'm sure everyone understood!

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    1. I'm sure they did, that thought doesn't even cross your mind at the time!

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  10. Momming is so hard, but I'm sure the other mamas totally empathized. Hope that it goes smoother next time!

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    1. Thanks! We didn't make it this time, maybe next time!

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  11. Every mom has a moment (or 100) like that. Keep going if you had fun.

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    1. I'm sure more mom moments like that are not too far off!

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  12. I think we have all had a similar story at some point!! So awesome job on wanting to try again haha that's the hardest part! Thanks for sharing!

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  13. Aww. We've all been there. I'm regularly THAT mom. lol! xo

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